What if Following Your Heart Means Crushing Another Person’s Heart In The Process?

I was listening to a podcast and this person was saying how they had fallen in love with someone who was married. Of course, they were very confused and struggling with it. But in the end, they decided that they needed to “live their truth” and be true to themselves by telling this married person that they were in love with them.

Then they would just leave it there and let the other person decide what to do with it but they needed to do this so they could be true to themselves. They said that they wouldn’t be able to live with themselves if they didn’t let the other person know. Even if they were rejected (which is what they were expecting since this other person was happily married), they needed to be truthful.

I am 1000000% in support of a person being fully honest with themselves, recognizing and exploring emotions, thoughts, actions. We literally can’t grow, mature, attain good mental health without honesty. But where does wisdom come in? 

We are human. Imperfect, flawed beings. Our feelings, emotions, thoughts, opinions…all parts of us will experience a wide range of changes throughout our life. To pursue “living out our truth” without wariness of who we are as imperfect beings is foolish. 

There have been times when I can’t imagine life without my husband and other times when I curse the day I met him. 

I’ve wanted to be a mother since I was 9 years old. But I’ll tell you…there were times of mothering teens that was enough to make me regret having children. 

Working through our hard times, our negative emotions, our painful loneliness is good for us. 

But we also need wisdom to know when we need to work things out in private rather than dumping on others in an effort to find relief. 

This other person is married. That alone should tell them that “their truth” is something that they need to keep to themselves.